FLAUNT or FAIL..!!!!

Strange title, right people!! Some might think how can both be related?

Well, my posts are here just to tell you about the hot, latest & happening developments of our life these days. Today, I’ll discuss with my friends about flaunting, which has not only become an inevitable part of our professional but also of personal lives too. Incredible, right!! But it’s true & for all those gentlemen or ladies who aren’t buying this thought of mine for the moment, can just be a little patient for some revealing facts of life while they go through the entire post.

So, how many of us have faced situations wherein boss said, “Look at that guy, he always seems to be working & never looks free?” The moment these words were uttered by your boss, you felt a strong itch to say that most of the times he just pretends or flaunts to work. In reality, he must be surfing porn sites, playing games or doing some other irrelevant work over internet. So what?? He is busy or at least he can flaunt to be busy!! Welcome to the world of flaunting!!

Gone are the days, when you used to think that you can finish your work sincerely & then take out some time for yourself & do things openly or leave early from office. Today’s corporate world is full of FLAUNTS!! You might not be working during your productive work hours, but if you stay late & flaunt to work, you are one of the most essential asset to the organization. Employees coming on time & leaving on time are considered to be “work neglecters.” Yeah, that’s right!! Barring a few instances wherein you really need to pull up your socks & burn your oil after office hours, the majority of people like to flaunt to prove they work more than required. Would you like to differ from this point?

Now, let me tell you the importance of flaunting in personal life. Suppose a friend of yours gives you a call today during your office hours. You, out of courtesy, out of love or out of respect for that person just managed your time to talk to him / her; Outcome? Congratulations!! You are one of the most “Vella” people on the earth, now. That’s just because you chose to talk to him / her during your working hours!! What reciprocation to your gesture!! Had there been a scenario, wherein you were free & available to talk to your friend but chose not to, may be just for flaunting, you would have been crowned as the busiest person on earth & definitely an asset to your organization!!

You can be a true, honest & sincere person or an employee. You might be one of the purest people at heart & genuine human being, but if you can’t flaunt, you are bound to fail. Mark it again; these are not my words, but my observations along with experiences!! You might think that you finish off your work quickly at office to leave early from office today, but that would be called as being inefficient as you left from office early. You might think that you can finish off your work quickly to spend some time with your loved ones, but what’s the use!! After a point of time, your loved one’s itself would start taking you for granted that you are always available & have all the time in this world to talk to them!! Shocked? If yes, then please become practical!! If not, congratulations that you already are way too practical!!

So, the success mantra for these days is FLAUNT or FAIL..!! Nobody wants to your gentility!! Nobody wants to consider how true you are to yourself & to others!! All they are interested to see is, you flaunting!! So, the next time your mom calls you during your office hours or even after your office hours (if you are that good enough to flaunt) just tell her that you are really busy at work, even if you are sipping a cup of coffee chit chatting with your friends. And just see the outcome that your whole colony would get to know that you are always occupied in some or the other work. And the next time when any of your friends call you to talk to you, just disconnect the call & drop him a text stating, “You are in a meeting & you would get back to him as soon as you are free,” even if you are playing games over your system. You would surely command respect, the next time you are with your friend.

The next time when your boss is not around just spend some time loitering here & there, keeping the work pending. The moment he sees you working till late & typing something or the other furiously over your laptop, he would love his decision to hire you as his beneficial employee. Many of you people might take this post as a sarcastic one. Many of you might agree to this post as you yourself must have experienced it around your professional as well as personal lives. Many of you must now have a success mantra to get successful in your lives personally & professionally as well. I leave this topic open ended for all such kind of discussions.

As the blog name clearly depicts that we all have “Freedom to Express.” You all can exercise your freedom to express your suggestions, views, advices, and comments, critics on this or anyone of my posts. Have a great time ahead, friends!! Cheers!!

Don’t you feel happy to return to your ship?

Life is all about everyday new challenges, struggles, explorations, discoveries, voyages etc. We all keep sprinting across the throngs of people, in search of our identity or in pursue of our dreams. In today’s ambitious world, people often feel they are self sufficient & quite capable of managing themselves. To be candid we all are quite capable of taking care of ourselves in one or the other manner. But, don’t you feel when the sun sets & when the day’s journey is over for you, you should return to your ship? Don’t you feel when the day is over & you go to bed, you need to share about the new experiences of the day? Aaaaah....!! Caught you!! Everybody feels the same!! This brief post of mine is all about acknowledging & valuing the importance of those ships of our lives.

We all have a set of dreams, ambitions, targets & passion in our lives. Every day when we get up in the morning, we think it’s another opportunity to drive closer to where we want to be!! People start energetically their journey for the day, either alone or with some of their companions. The whole day they toil hard oblivious of the fact if it’s taking toll on their mind or body. While travelling back to their respective dwelling places in the evening, it just feels exactly like returning to your ship after the day’s hardships. When I am talking about “the ship,” I am not talking about the concrete build four walled house, where you are returning to. I am talking about someone waiting for you or you waiting to see someone eagerly. Strange!! You would say what has it got to do with my day’s hardships?

You might become the most famous person of this world. You might achieve all your ambitions which you always craved for. You might also become what you dreamt to be. But then, would you really be happy at the end of any day, while you sleep? I am sure the bells in your head would have already started ringing. Yeah, I am talking about when you, at the end of the day, sit back & relax yourselves or rejuvenate yourselves for another journey, the next day; don’t you feel the importance of being on your ship? But, do you acknowledge the importance of that person who makes you feel that your day is complete now?

“The Ship,” that I am referring to is none other than whom you would love to return to at the end of a tiring day. Someone special, whom you would like to hug & say, “Now, I feel rejuvenated again. I am no longer tired now.” Don't you feel like talking to someone (may be even over phone) or just to think about someone who can make you smile after a long tiring day? It can be your mother, your father, your brother, your sister, your special someone (partner / best half) or simply a friend. Life is like a race & if you won’t run fast you would lose –heard it somewhere? Yeah, the famous dialogue of character of Mr. Viru Sehastra Budhhi from the movie 3 idiots. But, always remember that often in our quest to chase our dreams, ambitions or passion, we forget to acknowledge the fact that our loved ones are also running with us, till the time we fall & they bend forward to pick us up!! Please avoid such situations.

By today’s post, I would like to make everybody a little wary about their chase. We all love to fall back on someone at the end of a tiring day. We all love to share our dreams & the success when we reach at the zenith of our dreams. We all would love to rest on the shoulders of someone whom we love, when we are down, to make ourselves rejuvenated once again. We all want to return to our “respective ships” after the long & hard voyage. So, let’s acknowledge the importance of them from today onwards. Let’s value the existence of them in our lives. Not everybody is as lucky as we are to have a ship which is waiting for us with both arms widely opened to receive us, at the end of a hard day.

Let’s call them today & tell them how much we love them. I salute to all those ships!! Just one word of affection, love & acknowledgement would make them happy. So, please value them in your lives just as you value your dreams & passion. Cheers!!

THE REAL LIFE MANAGERS...

“Behind every successful Man there’s a woman!!”

“Women are the real life managers & home makers!!”

& the saga of the real life managers continues...!! Yes, through this post I intend to talk about the real managers of our life & their powers & influence in our day today lives!! You guessed it right people; I am talking about WOMEN power..!! The powers vested in this god’s unique creation can act as a boon (if applied positively) or even may act as a bane to wreck you (if applied negatively). We all live with this fact and would certainly abide with this universal truth that females are one of the most influential personality in our lives, right from our birth. So, what made me bring this topic out of the blue today?

Few days back one of my friend gave me a call and mentioned me how successful he is now in his flourishing career just because of his friend (now fiancé). He was going through a rough patch in his career & was deep down into his shells build around him with the walls of low confidence. His fiancé gave her the courage, motivation & stood by him in the hours of trial & rest is the present, successful friend of mine. WOMEN Power..!!

An old lady nearing her late fifties suddenly came to know that her son & her daughter-in-law were victims of a road mishap. She is all left alone with 6 years of their son with a very little amount of money & a huge responsibility on her aged shoulders to build the future of her grandson. I am talking about one of my old school friend, whose grandmother joined some job at the time, when she should have thought of some retirement plans, just to build up a nice future for her grandson. After being out of touch for some good 5-6 years, I got to know last week that my friend is working with an M.N.C. in Bangalore & her grandmother is still with him. WOMEN Power..!!

A man from a normal middle class family, earning some good amount of money suddenly is found one day sitting in midst of the hall of his home. His face was stuffed with a blend of a lot many expressions like anger, stress, distress, restlessness & many more. On being enquired by his best half that what’s eating him away so much that day, he reluctantly said, “My 50% salary this month was deducted due to sudden tax payments which company forgot to mention to me in advance. Rest 25% would be gone in housing loan, car loan & other small stuffs. The left out 25% wouldn’t be enough this month to run our household and I am not able to think how to manage now.” His best half just put an arm around his shoulders and said, “Relax & give me a moment!!” The next moment she came out of her room with a good amount of cash & handed over to him. On being enquired about the cash her answer was, “Whatever cash you used to give me for my own personal expenses, I used to save it every month & now we can use it. So, just calm down and all would be perfect!!” WOMEN Power – The Power of my MOM..!!

An MBA graduate, trying to make his own identity in some or the other way was struggling to build up a good career. He was trying but still not trying that hard to get a good profile / job. His fiancé decided to take up the challenge & acted as a “push” to his stagnant motivation & efforts. She acted as a boss at times to scold him, acted as a lover at times to caress him, acted as a mentor at times to discuss things with him & also acted as a guide at times to show him the right path. The result was his approach towards his career, his job & also towards his life took 360 degrees turn. He became more serious about his work & committed about his professional career. He became cautious about his selections & positive in his day to day approaches. WOMEN Power..!!

There can be so many examples from our day today lives wherein we would have seen the power & influence of women behind our successes. It could be in the form of mother, lover, sister, grandmother, friend or may be some international figure like Mother Teresa. We simply can’t overlook the powers vested in the real managers or the home makers of our lives. What even more fascinating is that these real life managers are now coming up to become corporate life managers too!!

One of my very good friends recently quit her job to become an entrepreneur!! She went one step ahead from many of people like us & decided to be a job provider, rather than being a job seeker. It’s been quite some time now since her venture came in to existence and she is already doing wonders. Many of the world’s biggest corporate brands are now being managed by women across the globe. So, howzzat..???? Only one answer... “Hat’s Off!!”

From home to sports, from politics to corporate, from jobs to entrepreneurship, you name a field & you would find an evidence of “WOMEN Power!!” There might be a lot many people who would like to state the negative influences or effects of women power too. But, this post was strictly intended to salute all those females acting as a boost to the lives of so many people like us & making us proud. This post gave me an opportunity to convey my respect, honour & share the saga of a few incidences that happened around me, citing the power of women. So, three cheers for our real life managers!! Three Cheers for WOMEN Power!!

Your experiences, your suggestions, your advices & critics are always welcomed. Please, feel free to post any of them on this blog, freely. Cheers!!

Are you one of the Victims of this CRISIS too?

 So, you think its only you, who is facing this..!! Right..??? Then, My friend you got it wrong..!!!

Wondering, What am I talking about?? Go ahead, read and you would feel you are standing in-front of the mirror, my friend..!!

Is it the time, when you've stopped going along with the crowd & started realizing that there are a lot many things about yourself that you didn't even know & may or may not like?? You've suddenly started feeling insecure & started wondering, where you will be in a year or two? Does such thinking or thought process scaring you to the core? But then you stop thinking because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish & that may be those friends that you thought you were so close to ain't exactly the greatest people you have ever met. Suddenly, the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones!! What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too & are not really cold or selfish or mean or insincere, but that they are just as confused as you are...!!

You look at your job!! It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one. Suddenly you've started realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom & are scared again.

You miss the comforts of college, ease of being in groups, fun of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that may be they weren't so great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself more & what you want from life!! Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing & find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life. Now, you add things to your list of what is acceptable & what is not!! You are insecure sometimes & then again secure at times!! You laugh & cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone, scared & confused. Suddenly, CHANGE is the wildest enemy of yours & you try & cling on to the past with dear life. But soon you realize that the past is drifting further & further away & there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken & wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you & wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but you cannot figure out why!!

Random hook ups start to look cheap & getting wasted & acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions & questions over & over. You talk to your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans & money & the future & making a life for yourself. While wining the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!!

But friends, folks, people, trust me you are in your best of the times as well as one of the worst of your times too, trying as hard as you want to figure this whole thing out..!! Welcome to real world..!! Welcome to Quarter Life Crisis...!! So, What's the solution to this Crisis???

You really think there's a solution to such stage of life? Actually, we all know the solution but its pretty hard to implement. Just to make it clear for all my friends out here, Just go slow..!! Stop demanding from life & from yourself so much!! Stop Comparing yourself with others (I know its very hard to implement). While looking out for a new job, take out time to thank god for your present job.

Take out time for your loved ones & spend valuable time with them. You might want to take out time to talk or catch up with the person you love the most..!! So, how about calling her / him today and tell her / him that how  much you love her / him??? How about pampering your own self today? If you want others to love you, first make sure you love yourself.

Try to reach out to your family and tell them they are an inevitable part of your life. How about enjoying beautiful mysteries of nature?? Start enjoying the beautiful drizzles, pouring rains, black & white ambiances, lush green environment, smiles of kids around you, blessings of elders around you. Simple? Not at all... That's why I said, we all knew the solution but its very hard to implement!!

But can we give it a shot?? If yes is your answer please go ahead and tell your special one, your family, your friends today that you love them a lot. If no is your answer please feel free to make me aware of your own creative solutions, folks!! Wish you all a great future and all the best!!

Please, feel free to comment, suggest, criticize or advise on my posts..!!! :)

Byaazz (Loan) pe Pyaaz (Onion)...?????

Education Loan...!! House Loan..!! Car Loan..!! Personal Loan..!! Relaxxxx..!! I am not reminding you the ways, how a bank can make you dependent on them. Its just that there's one more loan that's about to launch very soon by Indian Banks or Government of India (GOI) for that sake. That's "ONION LOAN" (Loan to purchase Onions for the household) Sounds Stupid..?? Trust me, its better to sound stupid than to even think of purchasing onion these days.

Recently, as a part of daily schedule I visited a grocery shop to purchase some onion for daily meals. All I could manage after witnessing the prices was, a smile to the vendor & telling my onion fan room mate, "Oye Doctor ne nahi kaha hai daily pyaaz khaaney ko.. Chal yahaan se..!!!" Well that was about the sarcasm, but in reality too, it seems in the coming few weeks Onion would become a luxury to enjoy. With Onion prices sky-rocketing to as much as Rs. 85 / Kg  in some retail markets, the middle class and the lower middle class people can now "wish" if they could afford onion.

What's the reason for these soaring prices of onion, suddenly? Indian Government always have their favorite culprit for all such reasons and quite inevitably its "The Indian Climate". Yes, As per GOI, The rise in the prices of onion is due to bad weather. Is it really true? I recently had a discussion with one of my acquaintances, who is in to outsourcing of cultivation lands for onions. He clearly told, "its all simple business." He told me that he has tonnes of onion supplies at his disposal ready for the sale. But, he is cutting the supply to make sure that the prices rise. "Ek baar daam chadh gaye, to double rates pe nikaal doonga dost aur double munaafa hoga," were his words to be precise. So, do we still feel that these price rises are due to foul weather effects? Or is it the part of a planned strategy by a few hoarders, black marketers or opportunistic persons to exploit the conditions, to earn more? The point of discussion here is not who and why are they doing this.. The point to be worried here is, they can't do so without the aid of certain government officials. So, who is reaping the benefits and who is paying extra cost out of their pockets, folks?? Do I even need to mention..?

"The Customs Duty on onions has been brought down to zero," finance secretary Ashok Chawla told reporters this morning. "Oh, Thank You so much for your benevolent gesture Mr. Politician," I couldn't stop myself from uttering this, the moment I heard this crap from another crap. Immediately, "Supply & Demand Theory" of my Economics classes ran through my memory. Create deficit in supply, increase the demand, raise the prices, reap more profits. Anyways, moving ahead from theory part, practically speaking, very soon for people aiming to have some onion as a part of their staple food diet, RBI will have to introduce "Onion Loans." There too, Reserved category sections could avail the magic of real onion taste in a better way, because of relaxations as we already have in all kind of loans. Rest all can see it, smell it, preserve it as an antique or proudly put it in on a display as a Luxury item. Right?

Meanwhile, Government apparently in an effort to curb the prices, has imposed a ban on onion exports till January 15th, 2011. "Onion prices will remain high for the next 2-3 weeks & the situation is likely to improve only after that," F&A Minister Sharad Pawar had quoted yesterday. All we can say on this is, "Tell us something we don't know Mr. Pawar. After all, it would take at least this much of time to generate funds for your coming near future campaigns, right?"  While Mr. Minister had indicated the government have no plans to import onions, a small 450 tonnes consignments of onion, priced at Rs. 18-20 per Kg, from neighboring country Pakistan also made their way yesterday through Punjab Border. So, Now we are going to pacify our hunger quest, by knocking the doors of beggars. Wow..!!! And I thought we have been predicted to be Super-Powers till 2020. Still a far cry !!

"The Prime Minister desires all necessary steps to effectively deal with the extraordinary price rise of onions and bring the price down to an affordable level," An official source said, quoting letters written by Singh to the ministries concerned. I was overwhelmed by this news, as it made me realize that at least Congress High Command didn't stop PM to write, if eventually from speaking. Well, letters of empathy, words of consolation, virtual efforts of government are not going to make any difference till the time some serious steps against Black Marketing & Hoarding ain't a part of Indian Judiciary System. Till that time, Consistent hikes in the rates of petrol, onions and other basic commodities would keep hurting Indian Citizens & all they could do is, SULK..!! So, I leave you folks sulking and thinking. But, do Apply for "Onion Loans," because you never know when you've to corrupt someone for these loans too. So, avail the advantage of "First come first Serve onion loans."

COOPERATION or CORRUPTION ? ? ?

"C" for Corruption? Naaah, Never..!! Check out for your vocabulary dude..!! Its "C" for Cooperation, these days..!! Yes, Cooperation is the new buzzword these days !! So, is Corruption giving way to Cooperation? Or is it the other way round? Can both also go hand in hand? Well, Idealists would choose to say that the two are absolutely contradictory and can't thrive simultaneously. Realists would turn 180 degrees opposite & would say that the truth is way beyond "simple opinions !!" Confused...? Sounds all LATIN to you...? All right, then let me show you the real mirror...

Recently, I thought of Owning a LPG connection for my home at Hyderabad, the capital city of Andhra Pradesh, also renowned for its illuminating Char-Minar & Dazzling Tollywood. My mere "Thought" was turned into an "Aspiration," when I was made aware of the fact that I'll have to wait for 26,000 homes to be blessed by these connections, before I could actually light up my burner, to cook. My "Aspiration" soon transformed into an "Ambition," the moment I came to know that I'll have to pay a whopping 6000 INR (normal 3000 bucks) to a kind cooperator, to own a connection in this incarnation itself. Reluctantly my "Ambition" succumbed, giving way to "Desperation" & ultimately I had to stuff the cooperator's illegal mouth with my legitimate money. After looting me, he left me sulking along with a promise to make me a proud owner of "my own gas connection" along with legal papers within 2 days. His revert back, the very next day proved him a man of his words & finally I also became a part of this COOPERATIVE society, thus making myself and the so-called cooperator a part of CORRUPTION too !! 

Did it raise a bell of alarm, leave you in a state of fury or leave you questioning yourself about it? If yes, then congratulations because you are still breathing !! If No, then All I have to say is May God Bless You !! The incidence that I just mentioned above is quite trivial and banal to cite, as we all are well versed with such situations in our day-to-day lives. We want to travel, but there is dearth of tickets; We approach a cooperator & pay (corrupt) him for his cooperation & make our voyage hassle free, thus denying the same facility to passengers, waiting in long queues. We want to rent a flat, but not able to find a desired one; We ask for a broker's cooperation, move further by corrupting him with some money & get a number of options to choose amongst them, thus doing injustice to thousand who still bite dust on roads, craving for shelters.

 These are a very few common man's examples from day to day lives. Recently, we acknowledged C.W.G. Scam, thus authenticating the prevalence of such cooperative societies aiding corruption at all the levels of  our Indian Democracy. Indian Scenario is now over brimmed with such blacklisted cooperative corrupted societies. Right from Ration to Fashion, Food to Fire, Ballot to Bullet we could easily witness such cooperators working in tandem with various societies easily vulnerable for corruption.

But who is to be crowned with the responsibility of such Cooperative-Corruption? Sleeping Government, Opportunistic Cooperators, Selfish Citizens, Unfathomable Desires, Unreasonable Needs, Impotent Systems or something else? If you'll approach a normal literate & Well educated Indian about the problem, they will proudly shrug their shoulders yelling that its the fault of Government and the systems prevailing. But "Mr. Enlightened Indian, "Who chose such a government and who created such a conducive ambiance for such systems to thrive, easily?" Even before you could realize your mistake, you would proudly shout at the top of your voice, "I want to avail the facility now, not after 2-3 years. So, I chose an easy way to make it available for me !!" So, is it unreasonable convenience or lack of patience, that is to be blamed for existence of such systems? Scratching your head for answers? Believe me, I am doing the same !! Its an ultimate example of intertwined sophistication involving everybody from tip to toe, without a single exception.

So, what's the solution to demolish such cooperative corrupted societies? Should we just abide by the fact that this is the real world and start living with such societies? Or should we become strong enough to acknowledge the fact, that cooperation is merely a convenient name given to corruption for our benefit? Should we just accept Cooperation by Corruption as a "blessing in disguise?" Or be gutsy enough to rise up and unveil this unreasonable blessing & the people boosting this blessing, even if it costs us our convenience, comfort & luxury? These questions are really tough ones to answer. I would christen them as blinders !! These and many more such questions, we frequently face and believe me we ain't able to decipher out the solutions of even one such question. Therefore, I would like to leave these questions open ended for your own interpretations. Not dragging this discussion any further, I would like to wind up this discussion now with a stern belief, that someday we would certainly be able to answer such questions & pray that day to arrive sooner or later, for the sake of humanity. May be that day, we would be able to face proudly this world, this society, this humanity and above all our own conscience !! Amen !!

Thanks a lot for your valuable time, folks !! Your much awaited comments on this post are welcome !!

Do's & Don'ts, While Planning a date with a Girl...!!!

Aaaah..!! Well, this might interest guys as well as galzz too. Yeah, we have often seen guys with average looks, dating really pretty galzz & on the other hand, dashing, handsome guys just roam around wondering, "Yaar, usmein aisa kya hai, jo mujhmein nahi hai..?" Well, I recently went through a research work done by a famous author David DeAngelo, which stated a few dating tips or rather what a man should or shouldn't ask to a women, he intends to date. So, fasten your seat belts coz we are on a short voyage, to learn a few Do's and Don'ts as tips for dating.

1. Hmmm.. This tip is specially for "Emraan Hashmi" fans. Here's a good news for them. The first & the foremost tip is that a man should never ask a woman, if he can kiss her, as she will only say, "A man should never "ask" for a kiss." Asking her for a kiss would only prove that you are still an immature boy & not man enough to go ahead and "just do it". This attitude will definitely make her uninterested & even if she chose to say "yes" that will just be a polite gesture of hers, while inside her, her attraction meter would read a big "NO"... So, please avoid being such a jerk, guys..!!
2. Well, if you like being a permission seeker or a follower, Get Awake or its time to loose your date...!! Yes, Girls like Leaders & those who takes control of a situation. A man should never ask a woman if he can take her on a date, as she would like to be with a man who is a leader & in full control, not with someone, who asks her permission to hit on her. Instead, it would be appreciable if he confidently walks upto her & simply asks, "We should hang out sometime today....Where can I confirm you the venue, by the way..?" A woman like audacious man..!! So, let go all your fears from now on....!!
3. Stop Boasting your assets, for heaven's sake..!! She's not here to calculate your net worth or Market Value !! Yes, A man should never brag about the kind of car he has or the kind of house he resides in as it would obviously seem that you are really trying hard to impress the girl. That leaves a negative impression about your personality on that lady. She would be far more impressed if she finds all your possessions or assets or attributes by herself.. So, Stop doing GAGAGAGA about yourself..!!
4. If you work on a contingency basis, its time for you to switch off that mode and become an effective planner. Its because a woman always likes a "Man with a plan." A man should never ask in first place to a woman what she wants to do for tonight. The man needs to have a game plan at his disposal before he calls her, so as to ensure not to burden her with this action of thinking (girls, afterall hates thinking... ;-)). After hearing your plans, if she comes up with some other thing, then that's a different thing. But atleast you "Turned On" her "Thinking Mode.." So, You mandatorily need to be a Smart Planner, to get your things going, guys..!!
5. Theories of Physics runs on assumptions, Relationships & life doesn't !! Says who...? At times, its good to assume a few things while dating a girl. A man should never ask a woman if she likes him, as this is one phrase which completely turns off a woman. He should assume that she likes him as not assuming this would appear in his gesture making him low on confidence, which girls simply hate. So, Simply say "I like you.." After all, Fortune favours the audacious..!! ;-)
6. Avoid being affected by her "not so good" gestures..!! Not clear..?  A man should never ask a woman why she never answered his messages, as one, it would show that he really cared, she did not reply back & two, it would give her a guilt trip, which is generally seen as insecurity by women. So, Let her not reply for sometime, after all, "Patience Pays, guys..!!" Relax..!!
7. Umm Hmm.. Are you an insecure Person? Do you really feel jealous at times? You really want to poke your nose into a woman's past life? If answer to all these questions is "Yes", then dude you are really in trouble. A man should never ask a woman, how many men she has slept with or how many boy friends or affairs she had in the past, as all these show that the guy is suffering from insecurity syndrome. Also, a girl often feels offended if you encroach her personal space directly. Let her open up by herself about her past relationships slowly and slowly. Afterall, All the great things in this world have to be enjoyed slowly, if you really wants a real taste of them. Love is one of those things, guys..!!
8. Be a good planner but never be a despo..!! Yes, Desperation kills the cat in the chase itself.. A man should never hint at a future date with a woman he has just met, as she not only wants but needs a guy who is somewhat of a "challenge"& she will loose interest the moment she realise that she has won. So, at times its better to hide "your real-self" (if you really are a despo)..!! ;-)
9. Well, always avoid being predictable. While ending a phone conversation with a woman, never end it on a "next step" note , as firstly, it would kill any spontaneity by being predictable, & secondly, you would also kill the chances of her calling you. So, keep up all your plans with you & let them come out at the right time. After all, everybody is a hero in himself, provided you catch him at the right time "in action."
10.  Last but certainly not the least is that a man should never ever talk bad about a woman's male friends especially, if he hasn't met them & doesn't know them very well. Even if you know them well, avoid criticizing till the time she initiates it, otherwise you would be eligible to be entitled to "An Insecure" person which girls simply hate to be with. Hence, Swallow your hatred, for the sake of your Love..!!

Hmm.. I don't know whether reading this blog post would really be helpful to guys or not. For this, is a known fact that reading all the theories of Einstein, couldn't ever create another of the same intellectual level. So, I pray and wish I could motivate few guys through this post, which obviously is inspired by a research work done by David DeAngelo. Also, many of the galzz would not agree to all those points, I mentioned above & to join the party would be quite a few guys too. But, how does it matter, guys.. Afterall finding love is never a strategy. It just happens..!! So, the best strategy is that leads you to success, let it be anything.. So, my apologies to all those who would like to differ from me & pat on the back to those,who chose to agree with me. Above all, best wishes to all those who would seriously like to follow these tips. May you get your love, guys..!!! Keep Rocking..!!